Unleash an entirely new you

You may think of yoga as just a practice. Maybe you think of it as your workout.  But it's so much more.

Yoga unlocks the potential in your body. Through flexibility, stamina, relaxation, sensation, and mental discipline, and even sensuality.

When you begin to practice yoga you begin exploring your potential. If you choose to open your mind, you'll find your body ready to explore new experiences and possibilities.

 

Accepting and celebrating your body

We are all born naked, and within minutes our parents wrap us in clothing.

Take off all your clothes right now, stand in front of the mirror, and look at your body.  Are you comfortable?  Do you love your body? Most of us don't.  We go through life hiding our bodies. If you're uncomfortable, it's OK.  It's completely normal. I'm still uncomfortable with my own.

In our culture, we wrap ourselves in clothes, makeup and pretense.  What if you let it all go? What would you feel if you stood in front of your friends completely naked, just you, with no clothes, no makeup, simply yourself? What if you could stand completely naked in front of your friends, completely comfortable with your body, every inch exposed ? 

Becoming OK with your body, accepting yourself and feeling comfortable being naked in front of others is a big step toward healthy self-confidence. No matter what your body looks like, you can find a new self-confidence about your body, your person, and your sexuality.

Ready to take the first step?

Step 1: Take off all your clothes

Find a private space right now, whether it's at home or somewhere else.  You don't need a mirror unless you want one.  I recommend avoiding the mirror at first.

Next, start taking off all your clothes. But don't rush.  Take your time. Go slow, peeling off layers, starting with your socks, if you are wearing them. Once you're barefoot, take off your pants or skirt.  Leave your shirt or blouse for last.  Also, if you're wearing underwear or panties, leave them on for now.

If you're wearing a watch or jewelry, take those off next.  Lay them somewhere nearby safe and out of the way.

Now it's time to take off your blouse or shirt.  Peel it off and toss it to the side. By now you're standing or sitting wearing just your underwear, possibly just panties and bra.  Close your eyes and take three deep breaths.  With each deep breath, fill your lungs with air and hold it in for two seconds, then let all the air out through your lips. If you know ujjayi breath, practice it now. When you feel your heartbeat calm, and you're steady and peaceful right where you are, it's time to proceed.

If you're still wearing underwear, I want you to peel them off.  Unhook and remove your bra, and peel off your panties. Guys, take off your underwear.  Get completely naked right now.

Step 2: Find your calm

Now that you're completely naked, don't do anything.  Just be.  Close your eyes and rest.  

Most of us find being naked equal to being vulnerable.  It's only something we're going to do when we get in the shower, or the bath, or when we're in the heat of the moment and about to have sex.  What I want you to do right now is just be. Feel the air around your body.  Close your eyes and just become aware of the space around you. Your skin isn't reporting anything- no clothes or jewelry or anything distracting your body from the elements.  You're just feeling air, and anything you're sitting and/or laying on.

Step 3: Accepting yourself & your body

Once you've reached a point of comfort with your body, you can explore. Yes, explore.

Touch yourself.  For women and men, this is different.  I recommend you close your eyes.  Don't let your visual perception influence anything.  Just touch.

For both men and women, touch your body.  Let your hands roam freely. Let your fingers roam over the surface of your skin, your shoulders, your neck, your tummy, the inside of your thighs, your feet, your lips, your chest, your face.... Nothing is off limits.  Feel what it feels like, imagine if you were someone else feeling you.  What does it feel like? Without the visual you'll "see" your body in ways you never imagined, and you'll also "feel" your body in ways you didn't expect.

Step 4: Celebrating your body

As you get more comfortable with your body, you should realize that there's so much more to be explored.  

For women, you can (and should) discover your body, including the areas that traditionally are considered too intimate. Hopefully by now you've found that you're excited, possibly even turned on, from the exploration of your body. You may even find yourself getting wet from the experience, the anticipation and the sensuality of exploring your body. If you are, embrace this opportunity to explore your body, your sexuality, and allow yourself to go anywhere.  You can even take yourself to climax. Go ahead and touch yourself.  Discover and enjoy your body. After all, it's your body.

For men, as you relax and rediscover your body naked, you may rediscover your penis: If you find yourself aroused and hard, it's OK to touch yourself. Men have been told for ages to avoid touching themselves, but it's a natural and OK. Close your eyes, touch yourself. Just let the experience happen.

Being OK with being naked

Becoming OK with being naked is difficult.  We're taught from birth that naked is bad.  And yet it's so important to who we are, and the moments in our life that are so important to us.

Now I practice yoga naked at least one morning each week.  I feel that it's so important to being OK with my body, every inch of my body, and my own sexuality. I believe you can have the same confidence in yourself.  Hopefully this post helps you to get started, finding your own way toward becoming confident with your body and your sexuality.

What's next? You can practice naked as a couple together with a friend or lover. More on naked couples yoga in an upcoming blog post!

Bow Pose: Dhanurasana, for a stronger orgasm

This pose helps strengthen the back and spine.  It also opens up the chest and helps you breathe better.  This asana is known to strengthen and stimulate the abdominal organs, which helps relieve menstrual cramps in women, and helps improve kidney functions in both men and women both.

What's really interesting about this pose is that it stimulates the reproductive organs and simultaneously reduces stress and fatigue. Practicing this pose leads to stronger orgasms and also helps individuals recover from dysfunctions like premature ejaculation and sexual disinterest.

Yogasm Guide yoga pose: Downward Facing Dog

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Downward facing dog, also called Adho Muhka Svanasana, is a core yoga posture in the Western world, and not one that is emphasized very much in the East.  This pose adds amazing benefits to your workout routine, and also creates new possibilities for finding your very first Yogasm.

The basic benefits of Downward Facing Dog are numerous: From building bone density, to eliminating back pain, to improving circulation. The other benefits include greater flexibility, strength, and greater focus. Downward Facing Dog deeply stretches the back, chest, shoulders, hamstrings, calf muscles and Achilles tendons.  It also strengthens the entire upper body.

If Downward Facing Dog is already part of your Yoga routine, give it a try.  We've added this yoga pose how-to on the Yogasm Guide poses page here.  

Have you already tried Downward Facing Dog and want to try something adventurous, sexy and fun in bed?  We applied Downward Facing Dog in bed and created a Yogasm Guide Position: Downward Facing Doggy (Adults only please). Have fun, but remember to be careful and try only at your own risk.

Yogasm Guide yoga pose: Cobra

The Yoga pose Cobra is both a backbend, a chest opener and a heart opener. It's an amazing pose that strengthens the long muscles of the back and the muscles between the shoulder blades. From a purely sexual vantage point, the Cobra pose brings new flexibility to the thoracic area, which stiffens with age. Translation: Make this pose part of your practice and you can experience better sexual movement and power in all sorts of positions.

What about the heart-opener? Heart-opening poses like Cobra elevate your mood, reduce anxiety and stress, and take emotional weight off your mind. A relaxed mind is always ready for better sex, whether it's with a partner or just solo playtime.

The benefits seem to go on and on.  Cobra pose also:

  • Builds upper-body strength, toning your biceps, triceps and deltoids. Think = sexy, strong arms and strong shoulders. And for our female readers, this doesn't mean big arms, it means strong, lean, gorgeous arms.
  • Reduces neck and back pain. Imagine reversing the stiffness and even pain that can accumulate from sitting at a desk all day. Cobra stretches the muscles in the shoulders, chest and neck, which can help relieve tightness in the upper body and back.
  • Prevents injury. By keeping hips flexible, Cobra pose reduces the risk of injury from overdoing it in any number of sports, including running, skiing, and cycling.  Any sport that relies on legs usually results in ultra tight hip flexors, which need to be stretched, and Cobra pose is just what the doctor ordered.  Even shoulders are safer because of the open stretch to the front of the body.
  • Relieves sciatica. Tight muscles in the lower back, hips and legs, which cause a pinching pain.  Cobra pose increases flexibility in this area, which can relieve sciatica. 
  • Stretches the six-pack. If you are working on any kind of abs, at any level, a proper stretch is in order just like stretching your legs after a run. Cobra does exactly that, stretching those belly muscles so you can go at it again without pain and issues later.

Learn the steps required to practice the Cobra Pose here.

Yogasm Guide yoga pose #1: Plank pose

The plank pose in yoga fires up your core, opens up your shoulders, and tones your sides and your butt, creating unbelievable fitness and sexiness at the same time.

We already know that more sex makes us look and feel healthier.  If you need convincing, take note: In a study at Scotland's Royal Edinburgh Hospital, people in their 40s who reported to have sex at least three times per week were judged by a panel of strangers to be seven to 13 years younger than their actual age.

Looking better is one thing, but the Yogasm Guide is about helping you actually have and enjoy better sex from a simple, focused and balanced yoga practice.

So we have been doing the research for you to find the best yoga poses that can fire up your sex drive, make you feel incredible and help you look your best.  Today we're focusing on the plank pose. Doing this pose regularly as part of a regular yoga practice can improve sexual function in women, including improved desire, arousal, orgasm and overall satisfaction with sex.  And it doesn't stop with women.  A regular yoga practice focusing on the essentials can help men with premature ejaculation, and even improve desire, satisfaction, performance, confidence and control of erections and orgasms during sex.  Talk about benefits.

Plank pose is such a basic pose, but it hits the core like nothing else, and has the potential to melt away fat, tone and strengthen the body especially the abs, which can make you feel better, look better and more attractive in no time.  

See the steps to try the plank pose here.

Of course, clear any new exercise or yoga regimen with your doctor before starting.

Yogasm guide hip openers: The mermaid

Hip openers are some of the most requested asanas in yoga classes.  They bring release in areas that are tight, and bring a sense of release to nearly all yoga practitioners. What most new yoga students don't realize is that virtually any movement that stretches the hip flexors can be called a "hip opener" because there are over 20 muscles that cross the hip, including the group of inner thigh muscles called abductors, the hip flexors in front, deep lateral rotators in back, and more. This fundamentally means that virtually all yoga poses are "hip openers".

Why do hip openers matter? Yogic traditions hold that our hips hold the key to control over our lives, especially when it comes to emotions, sex and spirituality.  Physically, tight hips can cause difficulty ranging from something as simple as stress picking up an item on the floor to something as fundamental as having sex with pelvic thrusts.  Do I have your attention yet?

Practicing hip openers can cause waves of emotion, and they can also cause our bodies to experience and crave an enormous wave of sensuality and sexuality.

This brings me to the Mermaid Pose, which  is an advanced version of Pigeon Pose with many benefits:

  • It strengthens the core and pelvic floor
  • It stretches the lower back, hip flexors and quad muscles
  • It opens the chest and shoulders
  • It challenges balance

The Mermaid pose requires open hips with a single Pigeon, but it doesn’t require the deepest variation of the pose.  Ready to try?  Follow the step-by-step guide to the Mermaid Pose page here.

 

Yoga Sex Benefit: Flexibility

The Yogasm Guide is a guide for people who love Yoga and realize that improved sex is only one of its many benefits.  So let's talk about one of the ways Yoga helps sex: Flexibility.

Most people can barely touch their own toes. Yoga changes that, and fast. In my experience, when you practice Yoga at least twice per week, something magical happens. You start to be able to reach your toes and beyond, including places you never imagined possible. You can literally start to "walk" with your hands past your toes, and find your body folded more tightly than ever before.  Just imagine your chest pressed flat against your thighs. That's the kind of flexibility I'm talking about. The possibilities (and fun) are endless.

  • More sex positions (think: poses) are possible. You can let your creative mind take over in bed, and if you are daring, even try some of the poses from the Kama Sutra.
  • Deeper penetration is possible. During sex a partner can sling the other partner's leg over their shoulder with ease. Some men love the feeling of deeper penetration while many women not only love the extra stimulation on their cervix, but many women report more and stronger orgasms as a result.
  • More and stronger orgasms. As you become more flexible, your circulatory system continues to improve in parallel.  This improved blood flow helps in so many ways.  Not only can you last longer during sex, but improved blood flow around the penis creates larger, harder erections for men, and improved blood flow around the vagina, labia and clitoris means more sensitivity which could lead to more and stronger orgasms for women.

Becoming super-flexible takes time, but you can start becoming more flexible right away.  Of all the couples and individuals I have coached, I have been told by most that they see and feel improvements and results like the ones above in as little as two weeks.  You don't even need a Yoga studio; The key poses to focus on are hip openers, groin strechers, and pelvis openers.  I'll go into each of these in more detail here in this blog in the weeks ahead.

 

Awareness and intention

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In my Yoga practice I've learned that intention combined with practice moves me along a road that is both satisfying and progressive.  Another way of expressing this is that satisfaction is a process, not an event.

I want to share my biggest yoga secret with you: A practice is not just a practice. To experience the most that Yoga can offer, your practice can have pivot-points that can create incredible, exponential results that can make you feel healthier, make your life happier, brighter and your sex and orgasms more deeply satisfying than you ever imagined. I discovered this by accident after my third year or yoga.

I was in my Yoga class, a C2 (level 2) class at the studio that I frequent here in Southern California. The instructor had guided us through an exhilarating sequence of flows that had everyone in the class relaxed and focused.  During one of the final poses we twisted, slowly, focusing on our breath. My mind was free and clear, and the instructor's voice gently travelled through the room, "focus inward. Travel into your body with your mind. Take a moment to feel and experience your body working." My mind wandered. I brought it back, trying, almost struggling to find this thing the instructor wanted us to find. In my heart I knew I was thrashing, that I had no idea what it was I was supposed to be looking for.  I closed my eyes and just breathed and decided to let go.

Then it happened.

I felt a surge of warmth in my chest.  It was like a slight wave of water pushing me, almost as if it had force outside of my body. I didn't think, I just felt. I let it run over me and imagined the wave touching parts of my body... my shoulders, my chest, my feet, my hips...  At that moment I felt a sense of pleasure unlike anything I had ever felt before.  I'm normally a very sensual person, passionate and in touch with both my body and my partner's body. I've always believed and found that 'feeling' a sense of what your partner feels can amplify your own pleasure.  

The moment I let go I allowed myself to connect with my body on a new level. The wave of warmth was a precursor to an orgasm; I felt the rush of a climax... my breathing became intense as I desperately swallowed more air to fuel the orgasm... and my vision became starry and bright as I experienced intense explosions of feeling.  In the silence of the class I felt alone, even though I was surrounded by 15 other people.  I almost stumbled forward as I lost my balance but quickly regained it.

The first thought that went through my mind was completely anchored in social awareness- I was concerned that maybe I had possibly created a spectacle.  Yet no one had noticed.

At the end of the last asana the instructor invited us to lay down and begin pranayama. Unlike any time before, I was without mind, floating elsewhere other than the intellect.  My body was cool, yet felt like it was glowing.  I had found a "pivot-point" in my practice, an opportunity to let go and experience something new.  This was my first Yogasm, if there is a word for it. Yoga had helped me experience new feeling and release that I had never imagined possible.

Are you practicing Yoga? Is your intention to find a new level of awareness?  Or a new level of pleasure and satisfaction?  Please share your thoughts in the comments.

 

A simple plan for happiness and better sex in 2015!

Just a touch of yoga in your life can help you live  happier, healthier and enjoy the best sex imaginable.

Just a touch of yoga in your life can help you live  happier, healthier and enjoy the best sex imaginable.

Every year brings new opportunity to refocus, an opportunity to be your happiest, healthiest and most authentic you. This year I'm resolved to keep up with what worked last year:

  • Keep my yoga practice alive, even if it's just 1-2 brief sessions per week, at home or at the yoga studio (sometimes even just a few minutes is enough!)
  • Keep focusing on the food I put in my tummy; Last year was a fantastic year of slimming down and enjoying the food I wanted to eat
  • Stay focused only on positive people in my life, both at work and in my personal life
  • Explore and find new and exciting ways to enjoy more and better sex

It seems so simple, right? Work out, eat well, be happy and have great sex.  Of course I have a lot of goals and ideas, including starting a podcast, writing a book, and learning a new language, and growth goals for my company.  But I didn't make a resolution for any one of those this year, because I don't want to commit to something that I don't have a plan for.  I'd end up being disappointed with myself over a broken resolution.

Why are the vast majority of New Year resolutions are broken each year? Over and over again, people have studied that question and the conclusion is always the same: It's one thing to make a promise, it's another thing to have a plan to make the promise a reality. Without a plan, the chance of failure is great than 90%.  Why do most people not marry a plan to their promise? The answer again is simple: They overcomplicate.  Complicated plans are hard to follow, can be overwhelming and easy to give up on.

That's why my 2015 resolution is to keep doing what worked for me in 2014.  In 2014 I experimented with yoga, my diet and kept on studying and learning more about what makes for better sex.  The work involved for me was minimal- maybe an hour a week, and the return on that investment was amazing! I went from having sex maybe once every couple weeks to having sex 5-6 times per week.  Sex lasted longer and orgasms were stronger. We had more fun as a couple and grew closer to each other. And with more orgasms (for both of us!) we were happier in general, which affected every other part of our lives.

This year I want to share more of what's worked for me with you.  Just like layers in a yoga practice, you can start improving your life - your health, your happiness and your sex - with just a little adjustment at a time.  Yoga has been the center of my inspiration, my resolutions and even my planning. And while what I share may not necessarily result in a mid-practice Yogasm, the reason I call it the Yogasm Guide is that yoga and your own intention can help you experience a better life and more and better orgasms.

Ready to get started on your practice this year?  You don't need a membership anywhere. Just subscribe to this blog and let's have fun together.